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Social connections are important for children’s growth and development. Some children have a hard time fitting in and making friends, and those kids may need a little extra help fostering friendships. Research shows that parents play a key role in teaching children how to make friends, so if you think your child seems shy or is a little isolated from other kids, there are things you can do to help.

Psychologist Fred Frankel, author of the book, “Friends Forever: How Parents Can Help Their Kids Make and Keep Good Friends,� say girls may have a harder time making friends because of the cliques that can form among young girls.

Children often become conscious about friends around age 7, say experts. Both sexes can struggle making friends between elementary and junior high because of the many changes, including puberty, that occur during this period in their lives. The following are some ways parents and other caregivers can help youngsters to make friends more readily.

Invite friends over and be a good host. Children can initiate social opportunities through their parents. The play date is a great way to introduce kids to other children in a comfortable setting. Parents can help model good host/hostess behavior, which includes putting guests before yourself and paying attention to friends being entertained.

Find fun activities. Kids often make friends when socializing with other kids who share common interests. Parents can facilitate this by signing children up for sports teams, clubs or taking them to play groups.

Try role-playing. Shy kids may have difficulty greeting others. Parents can help kids practice making eye contact, smiling, engaging in conversation, and other techniques as they are applicable to the child’s situation and personality.

Parents can be friends. Sometimes childhood friendships develop when kids are brought together through their own parents’ friendships. This can be helpful if everyone gets along. But parents should not force the situation or sacrifice their own relationships if their children and their friends’ children no longer get along.

Be supportive but not too involved. Children need to learn to find their own way. Parents can be a sounding board, but they shouldn’t meddle too much. Children’s friendships that are seemingly on the rocks may rebound the next day. So long as bullying or hurtful behavior is not present, letting kids work things out is often the best bet.